In my previous post What Is Coaching, one of the coaching definitions I used was this: ‘Coaching is a deep learning partnership with systematic steps to empower the coachee to gain courage, capabilities and commitment to achieve fulfilling goals.‘ And I emphasized on the three keywords deep learning partnership to describe what is coaching.
To see the benefits of coaching, we can look to the second part of that definition, ‘to empower the coachee to gain courage, capabilities and commitment to achieve fulfilling goals.‘ In this post, I want to highlight on the three keywords: courage, capabilities and commitment. Remember I wrote that a coach is a process expert, not necessarily the product or subject expert. The coach brings the coachee on an empowering journey to gain these three things: courage, capabilities and commitment, in that sequence of order.
Courage – A coach is a deep learning partner for he works more on the inside of the person where the beliefs, emotions and feelings are stored. One of the first thing he does is to raise the awareness of the coachee to see his self-limiting beliefs, the inner roadblocks that are holding him back. These self-limiting beliefs usually come in the form of self-doubt, fear, depression, lack of confidence etc. It takes courage to face them, and removing them gives the coachee even more courage to move forward. This is about winning the ‘Inner Game’.
Capabilities – The coachee will gain new mindset to formulate his path to success. Coaches believe that their coachees have the solutions in them, and deploy facilitative methods of deep listening, powerful questioning, challenging, even silencing, to elevate the coachees to gain higher self-awareness and see their true potentials.
Commitment – By raising the coachee’s self-awareness, he will take ownership and responsibility of his issues, goals and solution-forming process. The coachee then commits himself to do what he says he will do, and the coach acts as an accountability partner for the coachee, to monitor and keep track of his progress, and to provide useful feedbacks. Many people just need an accountability partner to walk through with them in their journey to achieve whatever they want.
Indeed it is a great privilege for anyone to have a coach. People with coaches are usually many times more likely to reach their goals than those who do not have.