Sometimes the only way to receive something better is to give up whatever we are currently holding on to. Many times we possess the means to be rid of undesirable circumstances and their negative consequences only to find ourselves unwilling to make the right choice of letting go.
Consider the story of the Monkey Trap.
Monkeys are fast and agile creatures – it’s near impossible to catch them. The clever hunters in Africa would design monkey traps based on monkeys’ behavior patterns.
I’m not sure whether they still do this, the hunters would use glass jars with an opening slightly bigger than a monkey’s hand. They would put food like banana and peanuts in them.
When a monkey sees one of the jars, its hand would reach inside and grab the food, and the hand is now turned into a fist. It then withdraws only to realize that the hand is now stuck. No matter how hard it tries, the hand cannot be freed from the jar. The opening of the jar is simply not large enough for the fist to get out.
The only way the monkey can free its hand is to let go of the food. Despite possessing the means to escape the trap, the monkey won’t let go as it grips the food ever so tightly. The happy hunters would then throw a net over the monkey and it’s game over!
How can we relate to this story?
Lessons and Questions
Are there possibilities that you are holding on to some things that when are let go, would improve your circumstances?
Instead of things, they could be memories or feelings. They could also be people that you need to let go or walk away from. Or it could mean you need to forgive them and let go of the past.
What are some of your attachments that are no longer bringing you joy?
What if you realize that the means to be rid of all the undesirable and toxic feelings are already within your grasp?
What would have to happen for you to open up your fist and let go?
It is understandably tough – how can you make it easier?
What are the new possibilities awaiting your open hands?
Sometimes, we need to lose in order to gain.