Coaching in the arena of business and organization looks at the executive as a whole person (complete human being), not just in life coaching. By and large, executives engage coaches to enhance their performance and professional effectiveness to attain organizational goals and increase bottom lines. But a good coach would also bring his coachees to view life in a wholistic manner.
It’s true that executives are not obliged to disclose issues in their personal lives and it’s none of the coaches’ business to probe into their private world. However, in my coaching journey so far, I’ve come across many coachees (even some of the top leaders in MNCs) who want to be seen and heard as who they really are, not just a position, title or power that they represent. They want their face to be seen, not just the organizations they’re fronting.
When a good coach establishes trust and really listens, executives would share their stories without being asked. In fact, they longed for someone to hear their stories. A great coach who listens would be able to use their coachees’ stories to evoke fresh discoveries of their highest life aspirations and driving motivations. Standing in their greatness, the coach would be able to walk them through the transformational journey, not merely an improvement process.
“At the end of the day, there is no such thing as work life and personal life; there is just life” ~ Robert Hargrove
Coaching is all about helping the coachees attain fulfilling goals. It’s about enriching the coachees’ lives, with things even money cannot buy.
So, what does non-financial wealth mean to you? What is it that you want that money can’t buy?
I known for sure that happiness is the ultimate for most people. So what’s happiness? For many their family comes into the picture, and for others it’s in the form of peace of mind, less stress, health, more time to catch up with their hobbies, spirituality, community work etc.
We are living in a society that most people trade their aliveness to earn a living. They can’t seem to get out of the rut and are in the perpetual state of helplessness. I’ve heard countless stories of top executives who’s health are seriously affected by job-related stress. My friends have colleagues that died this year as a result of work stress. And I definitely know many people that can use a break and vacation.
“If the bottom line is so darn important, then why is it found at the bottom?”
Cashing In Your Dreams
Recently, one of my friends had a health scare that threatened to end her life. In tears, she said “I don’t want to die without living my dreams” and “I’ve been ‘dying’ although I’ve been living all these while.” That health report woke her up from her slumber.
Many of us sleepwalk through life, like I said earlier, trading our aliveness to make a living. We trade our self-identity to conform to the corporate culture, to be who they want us to be. We’ve forgotten what it means to go after our dreams and come alive. We’ve forgotten what it means to be ourselves. Some of us are fortunate to be given a wake up call, like my friend who was given a second chance. For me, true riches is found when we’re living life to its abundant fullness, when we find our authentic selves and compelling mission, release the brakes and embark on a daring adventure.
The daring adventure comes when we dare to make courageous decisions. Coaching is often about taking small, easy, incremental steps toward change. It does work. But sometimes, a big revolutionary change is needed to feel a real difference. Sometimes we need to be shaken up. Sometimes small steps are just not enough, you need to take a giant leap. Or be pushed off the edge so you can learn to fly.
Coaching Questions On Creating Non-Financial Wealth
1) What does non-financial wealth mean to you? What do you value highly that money can’t buy?
2) If all the various parts of your life are viewed as bank accounts, which account has respectable level, which is empty, and which account is overdrawn?
3) If your life continues as it is and nothing changes, what would happen? Would you be Ok with that?
4) How often do you schedule time to reflect on your highest aspirations, life purpose and direction?
5) What needs to happen/change now?
6) If small, easy steps are getting you nowhere, what big revolutionary change is necessary?