Before I went into coaching, there was one quote by ‘Supercoach’ Michael Neill which caught and gripped me. It goes something like this:
“Imagine a stick is floating down a river, and it gets stuck. Well, the stick doesn’t need years of therapy, it just needs a little nudge and then it will get back into the flow of the river.” ~ Michael Neill
This is one of the fundamental differences between the coach approach and the more traditional therapeutic approach of helping people. In coaching, we’re not as interested as how a person gets stuck (Timeline: Past -> Present), as there could be thousands of reasons and excuses. We’re more interested to get them unstuck to reach fulfilling goals in their lives (Timeline: Present -> Future). We’re not as interested as how the milk was spilled, who spilled it and so on. We’re more interested in raising awareness and responsibility to get the mess cleaned up!
The stick illustration by Michael Neill is one of the best illustrations of coaching I’ve ever heard. Years ago, I had a friend who walked alongside me in my life. He was my leader but he operated in unconventional ways. Instead of directing me what to do, he engaged me in conversations and powerful questions, challenged me by nudging me in different places, helped me uncover my inner potential and caused a paradigm shift in me. He didn’t provide me with many of the answers that I seeked, instead he helped me one-on-one and walked me through the process of discovering my voice. My whole inner game changed. He did so much for me without doing very much to me at all. He ‘opened up my eyes’ (raised awareness) and I took responsiblity as a self-leader and people-leader.
My friend wasn’t a coach by profession, he just loved engaging people and asking deep questions to impact the inner parts. He was a master communicator and developer of leaders. I didn’t know much about professional coaching at that time, and being a voracious reader and learner that I am, I read and consumed coaching books and materials. And that was when I’ve discovered what coaching is, and what my friend did with me had very strong coaching elements. That had inspired me to find out more and to pursue my professional coaching certification.
I make it one of my main missions in life to help people to get unstuck to get back into the flow of a fulfilling life.
Do you have someone who can walk you through the process of getting unstuck in your life?
Where do you find that someone to give you the nudge at all the right places for you to get back into the flow of your magnificent life?