Sooner or later, we all will come to the realization that doing more and having more don’t make us happier. In fact, having more would often mean more burden to carry, more responsibilities to shoulder and more worries to think about.
It’s better to simplify every aspect of life to unload the excess baggages, to travel lighter and have better clarity. It frees you up to enjoy the finer things in life, and have more room to engage the things that really matter.
“When success is equated with excess, the ambition for excess wrecks us.” ~ Switchfoot ‘American Dream’
I once read somewhere that one of the useful tools to learn to travel light was the following sentence:
To ________ more, _________ less.
Or another variance could be:
To be more _________ , ________ less.
How would you complete them?
Here are a few examples to get you started:
To hear more, talk less.
To climb more, carry less.
To excel more, compete less.
To enjoy more, worry less.
To learn more, assume less.
To love more, judge less.
To be more healthy, eat less.
To be more happy, hold less grudges.
Can you come up with 20, 50 or more? Have a go at it. Have fun with it!
The idea is to train your mind to go against the flow of common thinking that you need more or do more in order to be more. This will bring out the creative side of you to be more resourceful and break some limiting beliefs. And notice that this exercise uses very few words, to train you to think more precisely. Less words = More clarity!
You can do this exercise while waiting in a queue, for someone to arrive, or while in the bath, driving, any pockets of opportunity.
The habit of thinking this way will make you realize that you actually don’t need very much in your journey. You will reach where you want to go faster, and have a more enjoyable journey along the way. You may have observed that the happiest people in life have learnt to live with less. I don’t mean poor, but these people have learnt to live the simple life.
The first time I did rock climbing, I learnt the hard way that the faster and more effortless way to climb higher is not in gripping tighter and pushing harder, but in letting go to reach for the next hold.
Mastering the art of letting go, really is the key. In almost every case of adapting to life’s unexpected changes and events, you can advance more freely if you learn to first let go of something. You can’t take hold of the next opportunity if your hands are already full. You can be open to unexpected surprises if there are less things in your mind.
Feel free to post some of your “answers” in the comment section below.