Many people have a good idea of what their desired future should be, and are always getting ready for that future. That’s it, all they ever do is getting ready and before they know it, time runs out and they never get to truly live.
Like them, have you been getting ready to live instead of living right now?
It’s important to wake up to the choices that we all have: the choice of getting ready to live (live in the future) or the choice to live in the present moment. This is a common misunderstanding of goal-setting some times, that we’re so caught up in the goals and plans themselves and that get in the way of our living in the present.
Let’s consider a simple metaphor. You may have an excellent road map of a beautiful place you’re visiting, but you don’t want to stare at the map the whole time. Instead, you want to enjoy the journey and the wonderful experience of the sights and sound of the trip. The purpose of the map is so that you won’t get lost of your position and you know exactly how to get there. This knowledge and confidence of getting there allow you to enjoy the trip of getting there.
So the map is good, the goal-setting is good, the plans are all good, but once you have a look at them, you put them aside so you can live in the present moment. Because if you’re obsessed with the future, you won’t enjoy the present moment. If you’re so obsessed with the destination, you won’t fully experience the journey.
Your future is created in the here and now, not in the future. How you live right now determines what kind of future you will have. So don’t live in your thoughts which projects all kinds of future worries, problems and expectations (which are entirely made up by your thoughts and haven’t happen), and be miserable in the present because you’re not actually here for yourself in the moment.If you want to be miserable, get yourself a future. ~ Byron Katie Click To Tweet
If your happiness is held hostage by some future conditions happening, then the present moment would be filled with worries, fears and anxieties. You won’t enjoy doing what you do now and when that happens, the journey to success would actually be harder. And this is the paradox – Don’t live for the future by living in the future. Live in the now.
Don’t wait for the present conditions to be perfect before beginning your journey. Many times, you won’t know exactly how the roads are going to be, you just move. You take it one step at a time, one day at a time.
I really like what the legendary Coach John Wooden said, “Make each day your masterpiece.” Notice that he didn’t say make your future a masterpiece. All you ever have is the present day and how it ends is up to you. Don’t get ready for ‘the day’, you have today and live it well.
For example, if you adopt the “living in the future” mindset, the clients that you meet would notice your level of enthusiasm, or rather lack of. Because your happiness is in the future, not here, you’re just going through the motion. In fact, you’re not even here, you’re so caught up with the future and you won’t be able to be present in the moment to engage and serve your clients well.
It’s the same thing for sales presentation. When your mind is so caught up with the annual/monthly/weekly goals and figures you have to achieve, you won’t be able to truly discern your prospects real needs in the moment. You may also come across as being needy and desperate. That won’t get you much results.
Years ago, I used to participate in chess competitions actively. I was quite good at it. When I first mastered the game, I thought that top players are able to think 10 steps ahead – that was the strategy to win games. It was later that I learnt that all I ever needed to focus was on my next best move. Trying to analyze and predict too much into the future would drain me and get in the way of thinking of the best next move. I may win a couple of matches, but I won’t have the mental endurance to last the whole tournament. And I certainly won’t enjoy the game!
Let’s not try to get to the future by living in the future, but by living in the present, moment by moment. What’s the point of being in the hurry to get to the future? What’s the rush anyway?There is just today, you and here. Make it your masterpiece. Click To Tweet
1) What gets in the way of you living in your present, moment by moment?
2) Without waiting for the perfect conditions to be in place, what needs to happen for you to move forward today?
3) What’s the worst thing that can happen if you don’t constantly live in the thoughts of your future? What would you gain?
4) How can you simplify your plans so you can enjoy the present journey?
5) How can you make each day you’re living, your masterpiece?