Who Has Rocked Your World?
Newton’s First Law of Motion: “An object at rest will stay at rest and an object in motion will continue to move at a constant speed in its original direction, unless acted upon by an external force (catalyst).”
If left to their own devices, many people’s lives will move in the direction that they have always been moving, and remain where they are. Status quo. Everything is constant, nothing changes. Unless of course there’s an external intervention – impact that changes their course of movement. That changes everything in their destination and journey. Have you ever had someone in your life that appeared and made such an impact to you?
As I celebrate my birthday today, I can’t help but think of a man that came along my way some years ago (and my encounter with him), rocked and changed my world, how I got inspired to go into coaching, and my vision moving forward with the intention to impact others. This post is about all that and the inspiration of Newton First Law.
My World Before “The Impact”
I’ve always been immersed in the world of human psychology and motivation since my teenage years. I’ve always been curious about what makes people do the things they do, what holds them back and how they empower themselves. I’m a voracious reader in the areas of personal development and brain science.
Like many other learners, I had been armed with so much self-help knowledge and research but still couldn’t get unstuck to go where I want and be who I want to be. Despite all that I know, I couldn’t change myself and shake off my self-limiting beliefs – no real transformation.
“The Impact” – Along Came The Man Who Changes Everything
There was a man that came into my world. He was different from all the other leaders that I’ve known. He listened to a different drum beat, moved and led with a different pace. There was something different to the way he talked, and listened. And the questions he asked. He was the catalyst that changed everything in me.
He challenged the way I see the world and myself, engaged me with thought-provoking questions, encouraged me to think for myself without telling me what to do, gave me permission to explore and find my voice. His style felt so different but it felt so right! For the first time, I felt okay to be myself and not what people want me to be. Inevitably, my best self felt safe to come out of my shell and stepped up and forward. It was a life-changing relationship for me that lasted over a couple of years.
His leadership and engagement style changed the way I view personal development and leadership forever. He set me free from the conventional ways of leading myself and people. He altered my worldview and rocked my world!
After he left, I found myself asking these questions, “How did this man get the best out of me without doing much?” and “Why did I like him so much compared to the other leaders I’ve worked with?” There was something obviously so different about him, something so fresh and empowering.
It’s Called Coaching
It was later when my curiosity led me to a few coaching books and the realization hit me, “Oh! That was called coaching. So that was what he was doing with me.” That man wasn’t a coach by profession but his approach of engagement had all the powerful elements of coaching (core coaching competencies).
That was it! I never stop finding out more about what coaching is. I also came across this quote by Michael Neill (aka SuperCoach) which I really love:
“If a stick is floating down a river and gets stuck, it doesn’t need years of therapy. It just needs a little nudge and then it will get back into the flow of the river.” ~ Michael Neill.
You see, what I needed wasn’t therapy: someone telling me there’s something wrong with me, that I need to improve and fix my weaknesses (that’s the self-help industry). I didn’t need someone telling me what to do with my life (we all hate that, don’t we?). Those well-intentioned advices simply don’t work. What I truly needed was the timely little nudges that probed my self-awareness, helped me to get out of my own way to go back into the flow of my best self. I would know what to do will my life.
My life would have continued the way it was (remained stuck) if not for that encounter with the man who stopped me on my track, challenged me with the little nudges and let me get back into the flow. He got the best out of me. He was the change catalyst.
Inevitably, I got myself enrolled in a formal professional coaching certification accredited by ICF (International Coach Federation). Even after I’ve finished the course and graduated as a certified professional coach, I’m still constantly learning and practicing coaching. I believe that it’s a powerful tool to help myself and others move forward in work and life.
Many Benefits Of Coaching
I had the firsthand experience of the benefits of coaching, heard many similar stories, persuaded and convinced that the coaching approach serves as a powerful catalyst that can create life-changing impacts to lives and organizations. Here’s an interesting infographic on ‘Why Coaching Works’. You can also click the link below the image to see the full-sized infographic.