This is the second part, a follow up to my previous post, Power Shift: Changing Your Inner Stance Towards Success (Part 1). If you haven’t read that, I’d encourage you to read it first, especially on the concepts of distinctions and inner stances, to get the most out of this post.
Lets continue on with more distinctions, shall we?
Wanting vs Creating
All of us want something. We have visions, dreams, goals, desires. We want to get somewhere. That’s okay. But it’s not okay to stay in the ‘wanting’ stance without creating.
‘Creating’ means we take a more active stance. We’re creators. We’re made in the image of our Creator but the power to create is our birthright – our innate ability. We create ideas and pathways towards our objectives.
In the’ creating’ stance, you view yourself as resourceful and creative – someone innately powerful. You can think out of what has been thought and done before. Using a familiar metaphor, ‘wanting’ is when you choose from what’s available in the menu. ‘Wanting’ often leaves you depleted and frustrated, especially when what you want doesn’t happen or come to you.
‘Creating’ is where you create something outside of the menu. You take what you already have and make something new. You make your own way when there’s no way.We will either find a way or make one. ~ Hannibal Click To Tweet
To shift from ‘Wanting’ to ‘Creating’, look into the direction as pointed by the following questions:
“What would I love to create?”
“What new ideas have I not thought of before?”
“How can I make the impossible possible?”
“What small thing can I do to turn the impossible situation around?”
“How can I achieve a new breakthrough?”
“How can I go past the constraints or limits?”
“Who can I co-create together with?”
There are tons more questions you can ask, and I think you get the idea.
Rigidity vs Agility
A ‘Rigid’ stance defends its position to change. He may sound like something along this line, “What is good enough for my grandfather….what is good enough for my father….what has been proven to be good….is good enough for me!”
One of the most important qualities to succeed in this age (post-Industrial and Agricultural age), is your learning agility. What’s most important isn’t what you know anymore, but how agile are you in learning and keeping up with the changing challenges in our increasingly complex world.
I’ve loved learning and reading all my life. I’m an avid reader and life-long student of life. I learn about learning. I had a shock of my life many years ago, when a friend and fellow leader asked me this, “Do you still love reading?” She knew I loved reading during our school days and then we went into the working world. I was shocked that some leaders carry the mindset that education stops at the time you graduate from school!Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune. ~ Jim Rohn Click To Tweet Not all readers are leaders but all leaders are readers. ~ Harry Truman Click To Tweet
The ‘Rigidity’ stance may also be related to an earlier distinction I wrote: Personality vs Inner Stance in Part 1. Sometimes we may get mixed up on what’s fixed and what can be shifted.
In the ‘Agility’ stance, the more you learn, the more you would realize that you know nothing and it’s okay to dance in the floor called ‘open to not knowing’. And that points to the next stance called ‘Beginner’s Mind’.
Afraid to Look Bad vs Beginner’s Mind
If you make it okay for yourself to have a beginner’s mind, you can learn anything you want. The ‘Afraid to Look Bad’ stance gives you fear of losing something, while the ‘Beginner’s Mind’ allows you to gain and win everything.
When you look in the direction from the ‘Beginner’s Mind’ stance, you’d see that everyone around you is a teacher and are able to teach you something.
I’ll let the following quote to show the distinction between the two stances.Show me a guy who's afraid to look bad, and I'll show you a guy you can beat anytime. ~ Lou Brock Click To Tweet
To shift towards the ‘Agility’ and Beginner’s Mind’ stance, ask the following questions:
“Would I let it be okay to open to not knowing?”
“What can I gain/learn from this position?”
“In which areas can I be less rigid and more agile in learning?”
“What fresh things can I learn from familiar things, people, circumstances?”
“What can I be more curious about?”
Be more curious than afraid.
I have more distinctions to share. Stay tuned for Part 3.
Part 3 is now available.